CLUSTERED EMOTIONS

Have you ever wanted something or someone so bad but deep down within you, you know you may not get it. But then, as much as you keep trying to let go or stop wanting it, it seems the desire just keeps growing.

     Well, my last piece was about conflict of emotions - about the different stages of singlehood or call it a breakdown of singlehood in my own way. It’s been over a month since then that I wrote because I’ve had so many ups and downs leading to clustered emotions, which is what I want to share with you. It’s so bad that I find myself in a fix and an invisible box, felt more like I was drowning in so much unresolved emotion. Unresolved emotion for a person, for life, for work, for school, everything, in fact. Thank God for one on my writing mentors who told me to break free from my comfort zone and go write something. I said I didn’t have inspiration, which really is a result of clustered emotions, but then I realized I could even write about that, if only to inspire someone reading this.

   Have you ever felt a rush of so many things at once? Like everyone around you is moving ahead in life, or yeah, getting married? Like people are getting better jobs and getting promoted and you’re just there? Some others seem to be making hay in their personal business while you feel so useless and as stagnant as a puddle? When you have all these feelings at once you get clustered emotions and that leaves you so confused and out of place.

    I recently left my job because of some personal reasons and most importantly I couldn’t find fulfilment anymore. I happen to be the kind of person that likes work to be fun and I can’t stand being on a job that isn’t fulfilling anymore so I decided to quit. At first I thought I was being stupid or lazy then I realized I needed to focus on exploring myself and doing things I find fulfilment doing. Ok, enough of my job quitting…what is clustered emotions?

       I’ll define clustered emotions simply as too many unresolved emotions tied together. Like I said in my introduction, it’s like wanting something or someone so bad and you know you can’t get it and as much as you keep trying to let go or stop wanting, it just makes the urge grow stronger. Even though you have let go in a way but it still leaves you with an unresolved emotion. I’ve found myself in this situation a couple of times and I’m sure I am not the only one that has been through unresolved emotion. For some people, it’s liking more than one person and trying to let go of another one but you can’t find yourself letting go, while for some, it’s having too many trial versions because they all seem to have good potentials of becoming full versions and then you get stuck and confused. You can’t even differentiate which feeling from which, or even pick out which you like better out of all the trial versions you have. (By the way, if you don’t know what trial version is, read up my post on it.)

As a fine single babe, I happen to have a couple of good guys on my case. As much as I don’t want to have to deal with a handful of guys, trust me, it’s sometimes fun with all the attention and all, it’s thrilling at times. But then, the down side of it is that things easily get complicated and making a decision becomes much more difficult, especially when they all seem to be good.

     The thing is, you don’t ask to have clustered emotions, more like you don’t see it coming most times and in some cases you see it but you feel it’s something you can handle, then you find yourself compromising some rules you had laid down.

HOW DO I DEAL WITH IT?

Well, here are a few ways I have learnt to deal with clustered emotions. These should help:

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•       There’s really no direct way of dealing with a clustered emotion because personality matters and the cause of it differs from person to person.
• ·        Get clarity. Understand the situation and what you’re up against, really.
• ·        Retrace your steps and identify what brought about the unresolved feeling.
• ·        Treat it from the source. Treat the root not the symptoms.
• ·        Be true to yourself about what you really want and what is good for you.
• ·        Don’t take on too many trial versions at once, one at a time, please, no matter how difficult it seems.
• ·        Let go when it’s still a bit easy and less complicated.
• ·        Don’t lead someone on if you’re not sure you want in. Don’t!
• ·        Don’t try out another trial version while trying to resolve a clustered emotion.

The foot bone is connected to the leg bone and the leg bone is connected to the knee bone, when one is not in place the rest fall apart. For every clustered emotion you have there’s a connection and if you could just let go of one of the connections, then the rest of the unresolved emotions fall apart and that’s the starting point.

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