PHILOPHOBIA
I really miss writing and I miss my readers as well, I am
sure you all missed me. My readers and I go quite a way
back and we have tagged on through a lot and withstood season change. I am
using this gracious opportunity to apologize for the break which went on for a
while and I almost could not come back to do what I love doing the most which
happens to be correspondence with you my dearest readers.
My previous write ups have been about different kinds of ish we go through, emotional problems and stages of singlehood. I will not urge you to take out your exceedingly busy time to read them in order for you to have insight on some emotional problems that’s messing with your head but I can assure you that you won't forget to thank me at the last line of it.
What is Philophobia? The fear of falling in love or being in love… I am sure there are couple of people out there that suffer from this phobia. I think I have this phobia and that’s because I have been single for awhile now, not that I want to be but it started out to be so much fun then, and I got carried away, after which I realized I was drowning or let me say; I was getting stuck in singlehood. That was when I detected that I might be suffering from Philophobia… It came as a shock to me because I did not think such would happen to me and that's because, I happen to always have things ‘figured out’.
I decided to overcome this phobia by letting myself thread in the unknown path of love. I happen to come across this game, it was a regular game nothing spectacular and the funniest thing is that it was not like every other normal game I would go for because it was not all that colourful or catchy. I decided to go for this game and that is because a friend of mine told me since all the games I usually go for happen to catch my attention and colorful on sight and eventually nothing good comes out of the game, then I should change the kind of game I would want to download the full version. So I started taking interest in this particular game, with time I realized that, me and this game have this kind of connection I cannot explain but it was so cool, played this game in a real matured and different way, I can say now that am so much different from the way I use to be, more like I am a better person.
The trial period of this game was different from every other game that I have tried and that was because not only that I had interest in the game the game has more interest in me. And because of clustered emotions I decided I was going to stop having so many games on my system, that would make it a lot easier for me to choose a game to try and also help in clearing out my emotions. Everyone around me was so happy that finally I found a game that interests me and I was willing to go all the way. My mind was made up to go for the full version of the game but life has a way of referring you to the fundamental subjects such as Biology. You open the first page of the textbook and it is Genetics that is smiling at you for a quick check that the teacher says will not hurt.
I was so nervous about this test, it was almost like I was waiting on a result of a four unit course, 1st because this is like the first time that it has really occurred to me, 2nd I have realized that this particular test has been a major barrier for most people, 3rd where would I start from again. My ethos came to mind which is ‘what is meant for me will not pass me by’. When the result finally came out, it turned out that as good and almost perfect that downloading this game could be, it just was not right. We are not genetically compatible): *sigh*. It was as if I had done everything wrong but then I remembered God telling me; ‘He has a better and the best plan for my life, I can only propose but only HIM has the final say to my life’ and since HE knows me better than I know myself I have decided to let go and let GOD… you should try that too {The ultimate game}.
HOW DID I DEAL WITH MY PHILOPHOBIA?
Here are some ways I dealt with mine but remember it differs
from person to person…..
· Be true to yourself: if you cannot be real to
yourself than it is going to be difficult to be true to others, which basically
means you keep blocking the right people out
Trust, but verify: learn to give people the
benefit of doubts, that is, if someone offends you do not be judgemental right
away or jump into conclusion. Just always have it at the back of your mind that
there’s a genuine reason they did whatever they did, most times it is
necessarily not true but it helps you in dealing with people better if you try
it.
· Think but don’t dwell: think about your
decisions before making them but remember if you over think them too much it
ends up being complicated which means you are back to square one
· Responsibility is the building block of greatness:
if you want to be great in your relationship you have to take on some
responsibility.
· Let someone be accountable to you so you can be
accountable to someone
· Take risks but make sure you can handle the losses and it isn't above your understanding
· Live life like every day is your last.
· Take baby steps: don’t rush into it cause it going to last a life time. You drink too quickly and thirst comes knocking too soon.
Love with your head before you love with your heart because
if you love with your heart first there’s a great tendency that you won’t
always make the right decisions and there would always be a malfunction and may
result to system failure. And remember ‘don’t let the head do the job of the
heart and don’t let the heart do the job of the head’……
P.S
Game means a guy
System means life
Read trial version to get a better understanding
Stay tuned for a series on YOUNG ENTERPRENEUR if interested
send a mail to temmybalogun23@yahoo.com.
SEASON GREETINGS TO ALL MY DEAREST READERS..... HAVE A BLESSED AND FUN FILLED HOLIDAY..... CHEER!!!!
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