WRONG SENSE OF TIME

I haven’t done this in a while so I’m not sure I can still do it or still got it. It’s been what? Three years since I did this last….

So I was just in my bathroom in my birthday suit trying to take a leak (nobody says leak, I know) (Lool) and shower but seating on that toilet gave me couple of flash backs and reflection of what’s been going on in my life, how I miss spilling my gut for you guys and how much you must have missed Shantell and Funmi.

I was lost in this thought when my phone rang it was Funmi at the other end of the line and she sounded a bit low, I said ‘’Hello Funmi what’s wrong? She said ‘’Shantell I’m fine, I was like “nah u don’t sound fine, she eventually told me she wasn’t so I told her I would have to call her back after leaving the shower.

Lying on my bed after what I call an awesome cold bath which felt really good I totally forgot to call Funmi back but she must have been really bothered because she called right back like she had a camera watching me. Phone rang again and she went on and on and on, I was at the other end of line listening patiently because I know all she wanted to do was vent and let it out somehow. Of course it was guy ish.

After the call I was just there in bed staring into my ceiling and thinking would this ever end? Or would they ever stop been clueless? Must it always be a struggle? Funmi has actually been through a lot and I just feel she of all people deserve better when it comes to love, she’s always ready to pour out, never too scared to open her heart even when she has had the craziest of experience.

Thinking back to her last relationship, how much she was crazily in love with some guy, it started off pretty good and we all just assumed that was it but it certainly wasn’t it because he turned out to be a lying jerk. I know how much we wanted her to get over this guy because when Funmi loves she loves hard and it wasn’t easy at all but eventually she did let go and stopped playing the fool, good thing about her is if she does let go trust me it’s gone with the wind.

Funmi decided to take things slow, of course her heart is still open to love (I really don’t know how she does that though). So after staying off for like a year plus she decided to give it a try again, she has a lot of guys that would love to date her, giving her attention but non really appeals to her or has what she is looking  for, they all just seem like wolf in sheep clothing. She finally was interested in this particular guy and it all seem like things are gonna work out now but she realized this same pattern behavior in almost every guy which I call “Wrong Sense of Time”. That shit can be so annoying because I have had a couple of experiences as well. “Guy meets girl, girl likes guy but guy can’t seem to make up his mind or probably scared or has other options or whatever reason it might be so they just reduce their pace and want the babe to do the chasing, so they can’t match up on the babe’s level so it feels like she’s doing too much, she shuts down and after a while babe moves on that’s when the guy starts to pick up pace and all… Brother it’s almost late if not late already sef..

I just feel when a guy gets it easy with a babe he just kind of met and she’s giving him all her attention and affection he tends to feel no one wants her or she’s desperate or after his money or something. Hello bro, sorry to break it to you she’s wanted by a million guys and some would even kill to be in your shoes so don’t be feeling yourself or be thinking am a lucky son of a Bitch ( Excuse my French) lool. If you are smart, take advantage of the timing because you might never get it back even though you might want it so bad, I’m not saying jump right into dating, just do the easiest and simplest thing “Communicate your real intentions’’ don’t miss that opportunity especially if you are for real.

As for the ladies if you find yourself in this situation, take it down a notch so you don’t scare him off.

• Make him understand you can be really independent emotionally.
• Make him realize that you are wanted not just by him.
• Don’t do all the work because when you really like someone you tend to compromise a lot.
• Don’t just shut your eyes to all the wrong things because your heart is in it.
• Tell your head to keep telling your heart “I am in charge’’
• Don’t settle for less because you want him so bad

Think about all the guys that have really liked you and the ones that are liking you at the moment, how they put in efforts, go the extra mile just because they want your attention, affection and want you to know how much they like you. Make sure you get that from this person you really like because I realize when you really want someone or into someone you tend to cut them some slacks and compromise on things we don’t normally do.

Remember this, it differs, different people, personalities, behavior, ethnics, backgrounds, family etc.

Best of luck…..