The Longer it takes...

The longer it takes

What does it feel like to be involved? How do I know its right? Does it feel right? Am I on the right track? Should I go? Should I stay? Is he the right one? These rhetorical questions go on and on.

I was chilling in my room after seeing some movies, I went on a break and felt the world would be a boring place if there were no more videos {my opinion though}.

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Thinking I could pull off a freestyle here, but really don’t know what exactly I want to write about so bear with me cos I’m going to divert a lot,, but I give you my word, I’m planning to reach just a point with all the diversions. So much to talk about and a couple of things in my head I’d like to share with y’all, but they all feel so scattered and am hoping I can collect the thoughts and constructively touch you with them like when silence is broken by a child’s cry.

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In summary:

I saw a movie that was about four exclusive people two in a pair. They grew up together and were all very close, but  they’ve got something I call the “familiar spirit”. One married was but the wife was just a bi***, a careless mother and party freak. Another was getting old and unmarried. Another was shy and couldn’t ‘let go’, so remained single, the last was married but to someone wide of the mark. The pairs did a double and ended up together in a weird place 'happy marriage'. That mutually exclusive disposition made me wonder why walk around looking for something that has always been right in front of you all these while.

Another one I saw was about this lady who was trying to track down all her exes, thinking she may have missed her soul mate along the line. She got a friend to help her track them down, one after the other. She sawthem and tried to bring the dead back to life, believing she must have missed something out. All the while she was going about, what she was looking for was in front of her, but she almost failed to notice it because the final ‘ex’ she tried to connect back with was really rich, handsome, well connected and from a respectable family to top it all her mother likes him because of his status, on the other hand the right one was broke, cute, promiscuous and just a regular guy, but made her happy, loved her for her and she could be herself with him; 'predicaments' ain't it?

I will jump to the last one I've seen a lot of times, it was about an uptight black independent lady, career driven and has a long list for a description of an ideal man. She was so uptight and always wanting the regular things in life, an excellence in her career, and never disregards her mother's words. She met this white guy who wasn’t in her league at all {a gardener, but couldn’t bring herself to admit she was in love with him because of the color of his skin. Along the line, she met this really cool, ambitious, tie and suit whom her mother loved because he was black and successful. He was truly a perfect match considering all facts. But to measure love with facts is a dire folly.

All am trying to point out is that love isn’t about the colour of someone’s skin, the tribe he/she is from, the amount he/she has in the bank, the connection the person has, what people think, who his/her family is etc. Alot lot of people have mistaken love to be so many things and they are too blind to see what is right in front of them. Some people say they are in love for so many wrong reasons; some even go as far as getting married for the wrong reasons, some people mistake commitment for love, some even lie and try convincing themselves that they are in love. Most have lost the essence of love.

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        To be in love is to give yourself away not because you expect something in return but because you feel good doing it.

·         Don’t be in a relationship because of what people will think if you leave or what will become of you.

·         Remember your happiness comes first in everything because it takes a happy person to make another happy.

·         Don’t go about looking for what is right in front of you, be sensitive and anyone who can afford you a smile when you’re grim deserves a chance.

·         If you can’t be your true self with him or her then it is pointless trying at all.

·         The longer it takes the more desperate you become as you begin to demand reason for your loveless prison.

Love is not a feeling, it’s a decision you make because feelings change and if you are a person of integrity then your decision wouldn’t. Loving someone is an adventure, it doesn’t matter who the person is as long as you can feel that vibe, makes you laugh endlessly, gives you unexplainable delight and happiness, puts your happiness first, you can tell anything to and isn’t trying to judge you instead, likes you for being you; don’t ever compromise that for things that won’t last long and can fade away in no time.